I’m quite familiar with judging myself harshly.
I’ve learnt that it helps me distance myself from emotional pain, from my vulnerability, anger, jealousy, fear, whatever is arising – by covering it over with self-judgment. Yet, when I push away parts of myself with judgment, I only dig myself deeper into feeling unworthy. I’ve learnt that, whenever I notice that I’m judging myself, to check in with my body to see where I’m feeling emotional pain. With a very gentle touch, I place my hand on my heart and say, “I care about this suffering” and offer myself some compassion.