I wish I had known this when I was younger!
I have been a human doing, rather than a human BEing much of my life. If I just had the right job, the right title, enough things, was the perfect mother, was ‘good’. If I just did what I thought everyone else wanted me to do. If I just tried hard enough, perhaps finally I would feel worthy. Worthy of love, worthy of belonging, worthy of happiness, worthy of ‘success’. There are NO external prerequisites for worthiness. We are born with it. And if we have forgotten, we need to cultivate it within ourselves.
I am a good person. I do the best I can at the time. I have good intentions, a good heart. I stuff up, I make mistakes, I disappoint and hurt others and I disappoint and hurt myself. And I say sorry and I learn from my mistakes and grow. I am imperfect and always will be, as I am a human being. I try to model this to my son. He doesn’t have to do something or become someone to be loved. He just is. May I give that gift to myself too.